Unloved?

Let me share with you a story today. There was this lady back in basic school who was so unloved- people despised her, called her names. This lady was a nice, kind-hearted person, and not close to all the mockery and ‘bad names’ she was called. The lady couldn’t make sense out of it, she cried severally, but people didn’t notice that. She felt as though she was an outcast and didn’t belong. She was mostly alone. Not only that, but she wished she could belong to the society, but no one was ready to listen to her.

Are you or have you been through such before? Well, as a victim, I understand you. But let me assure you that you will be fine. You are a great person. Your situation shouldn’t make you hide. This shouldn’t be a reason for you not to enjoy your youthful age. This shouldn’t be enough reason for you to be so reserved that you are tagged a loner. I know it hurts, it’s difficult, but you don’t have to harm yourself by unloving yourself. You need to love yourself. Forget about the bad things that people say about you. Forget about the mockery, names and all that people do to bring you down. You ought to love yourself.

 

You have God and He is more than enough. He loves you unconditionally. Sometimes we need to “physically” experience this love and when it’s not forthcoming, it just another thing all together. However, what we need to know is, Christ first loved us, and to really experience His love, we need to accept Christ and love ourselves too (See Ephesians 1&2… please read). Let’s now proceed with the story.

So this young lady was ridiculed by her mates for no meaningful reason. She was called ugly, she was laughed at because many people thought she looked like a boy, and as her dad wouldn’t let her keep her haircut “normal,” but very low that you could see her scalp. It was so uncomfortable. She felt left out. Most often there was nothing good to say about her on the path of her friends and mates. She felt so unloved, so alone and truth be told she grew and has grown to be one who feels so unloved, belittled and not confident especially about her looks in public. She became a shadow of herself, growing up with nothing good to say about herself, always in doubt; seeking a second opinion, so disheartening!

But hey, today, she has been able to make meaning out these problems, obstacle, bitterness, self-denial, and she’s gradually becoming a better version of herself. She can now stand before people, she can speak her mind without fear of being shut, she can confidently boast in her potentials, some people even look up to her, people have confidence in her. Guess what! She is the one confidently writing to encourage, motivate and bring people out of their shelves. People who know me will smile as they read this because it was really tough for me. It is by the grace of God I’ve come this far. God got you. I am still learning to love myself and appreciate who I am. Wondering how? By what I am doing and what I’ve decided to do. I didn’t sit back, I didn’t shatter myself out completely, I decided to give myself a chance to be a better version of who “they” said I am. This is what I bring to your door step. Can you keep praising in the hallway till God opens the next door, or you are going to “false” your way in?

Are you going to let those who said what they have to say and the situations you face tell your success story, or you want to tell theirs? Would you want them to come and witness for themselves and go tell others, or you want to be a witness of their sayings and those obstacles? I understand what you are going through. I know that often times you don’t like what you hear, and what is said about you, especially lies that are said about you, but can we put these on a scale and weigh? If it’s true, can we ask ourselves “what am I doing about it?” if it’s not, can we just let go? Sometimes the things that people say can “kill” us- a death we can never rise from, but other times these sayings make us the better versions of who we are now. Understand that, to be out of your worries, it must start from you, you got to get hold of your life and know the path you are treading on. “Love is a beautiful thing” as is often said but can you make this saying a reality to you. Can you say, “I love myself?” Join me sing this beautiful song by Lauren Diagle

Before I conclude this write-up, I want to appreciate the lady who didn’t let me down when others did. She walked up to me one day in school and said to me, I have heard so many things and I have come to ask you. I told her, “my dear, I do not have answers to your questions, but be my friend, and you may witness and get your answers.” I am glad after this encounter she never went back, she never believed in what was said about me but held on to our relationship till this very day. God bless you Afua A. A. To conclude, appreciate the situations you find yourself in and love them. You’ll definitely sail through. Don’t just be comfortable with your problems but make meaning out of them and glow in the efforts you are making. It’s not magic by the way, it takes time, so try to be patient with yourself as you journey in your struggles. Take that bold step.

Kindly share with me your thoughts and experiences I really want to hear from you. Don’t ignore the comment box. Be good!

2 thoughts on “Unloved?”

  1. You’re message is inspiring. I trust that anyone who reads this would experience a turn around. I have a friend who can relate to your story. I pray God grants you the grace to do what you do and may he take you completely out of that hiding place. I love you for this❤️❤️❤️❤️

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